Also by don Miguel Ruiz [605076]

Also by don Miguel Ruiz
THE MASTERY OF LOVE
A Practical Ouide to trie Art of Relationship
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS COMPANION BOOK
Usin3 the Tour Agreements to Master the Dream of /o ur Life
LOS CUATRO ACUERDOS Una guia practica para la liber tad personal
A Practical Ouide to Personal Freedom
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To [tec
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS
\V i s d o m Book
DON MIGUEL Ruiz
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AMBER-ALLEN PUBLISHING SAN RAFAEL, CALIFORNIA
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Copyright © 1997 by Miguel Angel Ruiz, M.D.
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Ruiz, Miguel, 1952-
The four agreements : a practical guide to persona] freedom/Miguel Ruiz.
p. cm. — (A Toltec wisdom book) ISBN I-878424-31-9 (alk. paper)
I. Conduct of life. 2. Toltec philosophy — Miscellan ea. I. Title. II. Series: Ruiz, Miguel, 1952- Toltec
wisdom book. BJI58I. 2. R85 1997 97-18256
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Distributed by Publishers Group West To the Circle of Fire; those who have gone before,
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contents
Introduction 1 Domestication and the Dream of the Planet 1 2 The First Agreement Be Impeccable with Your Word 25
3 The Second Agreement Don't Take Anything Personall y 47
4 The Third Agreement Don't Make Assumptions 63 5 The Fourth Agreement Always Do Your Best 75 6 The Toltec Path to Freedom Breaking Old Agreements 93
7 The New Dream Heaven on Earth 123
Prayers 131
Acknowleagments
I WOULD LIKE TO HUMBLY ACKNOWLEDGE MY mother Sarita, who
taught me unconditional love; my father Jose Luis, w ho taught me
discipline; my grandfather Leonardo Macias, who gave me the key to
unlock the Toltec mysteries; and my sons Miguel, Jose Luis, and
Leonardo. I wish to express my deep affection and appreciatio n to the
dedication of Gaya Jenkins and Trey Jenkins. I would like to extend my profound gratitude to Jane t Mills —
publisher, editor, believer. I am also abidingly gra teful to Ray
Chambers for lighting the way. I would like to honor my dear friend Gini Gentry, an amazing "brain"
whose faith touched my heart. I would like to pay tribute to the many people who h ave given freely
of their time, hearts, and resources to support the teachings. A partial
list includes: Gae Buckley, Ted and Peggy Raess, Ch ris-tinea Johnson,
Judy "Red" Fruhbauer, Vicki Molinar, David and Lind a Dibble,
Bernadette Vigil, Cynthia Wootton, Alan Clark, Rita Rivera, Catherine
Chase, Stephanie Bureau, Todd Kaprielian, Glenna Qu igley, Allan and
Randi Hardman, Cindee Pascoe, Tink and Chuck Cowgill , Roberto
and Diane Paez, Siri Gian Singh Khalsa, Heather Ash , Larry Andrews,
Judy Silver, Carolyn Hipp, Kim Hofer, Mersedeh Khera dmand, Diana
and Sky Ferguson, Ken Kropidlowski, Steve Hasenburg , Dara Salour,
Joaqum Galvan, Woodie Bobb, Rachel Guerrero, Mark Ge rshon,
Collette Michaan, Brandt Morgan, Katherine Kilgore (Kitty Kaur),
Michael Gilardy, Laura Haney, Marc Cloptin, Wendy B obb, Ed Fox, Yari
Jaeda, Mary Carroll Nelson, Amari Magdelana, JaneAnn Dow, Russ
Venable, Gu and Maya Khalsa, Mataji Rosita, Fred an d Marion
Vatmelli, Diane Laurent, V.J. Polich, Gail Dawn Pric e, Barbara Simon,
Patti Torres, Kaye Thompson, Ramin Yazdani, Linda Lig htfoot, Terry
Gorton, Dorothy Lee, J.J. Frank, Jennifer and Jeann e Jenkins, George

Gorton, Tita Weems, Shelley Wolf, Gigi Boyce, Morgan Drasmm, Eddie
Von Sonn, Sydney de Jong, Peg Hackett Cancienne, Ge rmame
Bautista, Pilar Mendoza, Debbie Rund Caldwell, Bea La Scalla,
Eduardo Rabasa, and The Cowboy.
The Toltec
THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO, THE TOLTEC WERE known throu ghout
southern Mexico as "women and men of knowledge." Anth ropologists
have spoken of the Toltec as a nation or a race, bu t, in fact, the Toltec
were scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and
conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of t he ancient ones.
They came together as masters (naguals) and students at
Teotihuacan, the ancient city of pyramids outside Me xico City known
as the place where "Man Becomes God." Over the millennia, the naguals were forced to conceal the ancestral
wisdom and maintain its existence in obscurity. Europ ean conquest,
coupled with rampant misuse of personal power by a f ew of the
apprentices, made it necessary to shield the knowled ge from those
who were not prepared to use it wisely or who might intentionally
misuse it for personal gam. Fortunately, the esoteric Toltec knowledge was embod ied and passed
on through generations by different lineages of naguak. Though it
remained veiled in secrecy for hundreds of years, an cient prophecies
foretold the coming of an age when it would be neces sary to return
the wisdom to the people. Now, don Miguel Ruiz, a nagual from the
Eagle Knight lineage, has been guided to share with us the powerful
teachings of the Toltec. Toltec knowledge arises from the same essential unity of truth as all the
sacred esoteric traditions found around the world. Though it is not a
religion, it honors all the spiritual masters who ha ve taught on the
earth. While it does embrace spirit, it is most accur ately described as a
way of life, distinguished by the ready accessibili ty of happiness and
love.
INTRODUCTION
The Smokey Mirror THREE THOUSAND YEARS AGO, THERE WAS A HUMAN just li ke you and
me who lived near a city surrounded by mountains. Th e human was
studying to become a medicine man, to learn the knowl edge of his
ancestors, but he didn't completely agree with every thing he was
learning. In his heart, he felt there must be someth ing more.
One day, as he slept in a cave, he dreamed that he s aw his own body
sleeping. He came out of the cave on the night of a new moon. The
sky was clear, and he could see millions of stars. T hen something
happened inside of him that transformed his life fore ver. He looked at
his hands, he felt his body, and he heard his own v oice say, "I am
made of light; I am made of stars." He looked at the stars again, and he realized that it's not the stars that
create light, but rather light that creates the sta rs. "Everything is made
of light," he said, "and the space in-between isn't empty." And he
knew that everything that exists is one living bein g, and that light is the
messenger of life, because it is alive and contains all information.
Then he realized that although he was made of stars, he was not those
stars. "I am in-between the stars," he thought. So h e called the stars the
tonal and the light between the stars the nagual, and he knew that
what created the harmony and space between the two i s Life or
Intent. Without Life, the tonal and the nagual could not exist. Life is the
force of the absolute, the supreme, the Creator who creates
everything. This is what he discovered: Everything in existence is a manifestation of
the one living being we call God. Everything is God . And he came to
the conclusion that human perception is merely light perceiving light.
He also saw that matter is a mirror — everything is a mirror that reflects
light and creates images of that light — and the wor ld of illusion, the
Dream, is just like smoke which doesn't allow us to see wha t we really
are. "The real us is pure love, pure light," he sai d.
This realization changed his life. Once he knew wha t he really was, he
looked around at other humans and the rest of nature , and he was
amazed at what he saw. He saw himself in everything — in every
human, in every animal, in every tree, in the water, in the rain, in the
clouds, in the earth. And he saw that Life mixed the tonal and the
nagual in different ways to create billions of manifestatio ns of Life.

In those few moments he comprehended everything. He wa s very
excited, and his heart was filled with peace. He co uld hardly wait to
tell his people what he had discovered. But there w ere no words to
explain it. He tried to tell the others, but they c ould not understand.
They could see that he had changed, that something b eautiful was
radiating from his eyes and his voice. They noticed that he no longer
had judgment about anything or anyone. He was no lon ger like
anyone else. He could understand everyone very well, but no one could
understand him. They believed that he was an incarna tion of God,
and he smiled when he heard this and he said, "It is true. I am God. But
you are also God. We are the same, you and I. We are images of light.
We are God." But still the people didn't understand him.
He had discovered that he was a mirror for the rest of the people, a
mirror in which he could see himself. "Everyone is a mirror," he said. He
saw himself in everyone, but nobody saw him as themsel ves.
And he realized that everyone was dreaming, but with out awareness,
without knowing what they really are. They couldn't see him as
themselves because there was a wall of fog or smoke between the
mirrors. And that wall of fog was made by the interpr etation of images
of light — the Dream of humans.
Then he knew that he would soon forget all that he had learned. He
wanted to remember all the visions he had had, so he decided to call
himself the Smokey Mirror so that he would always kno w that matter is
a mirror and the smoke in-between is what keeps us fr om knowing
what we are. He said, I am the Smokey Mirror, because I am looking at
myself in all of you, but we don't recognize each ot her because of the
smoke in-between us. That smoke is the Dream, and the mirror is you,
the dreamer." Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see. . . — John Lennon
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet
WHAT YOU ARE SEEING AND HEARING RIGHT NOW is nothin g but a
dream. You are dreaming right now in this moment. You a re dreaming
with the brain awake. Dreaming is the main function o f the mind, and
the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day. It dreams whe n the brain is
awake, and it also dreams when the brain is asleep. The difference is
that when the brain is awake, there is a material fr ame that makes us
perceive things in a linear way. When we go to slee p we do not have
the frame, and the dream has the tendency to change c onstantly.
Humans are dreaming all the time. Before we were born the humans
before us created a big outside dream that we will c all society's
dream or the dream of the planet. The dream of the planet is the
collective dream of billions of smaller, personal dre ams, which
together create a dream of a family, a dream of a co mmunity, a
dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally a dream of the
whole humanity. The dream of the planet includes all of society's rules,
its beliefs, its laws, its religions, its different cultures and ways to be, its
governments, schools, social events, and holidays. We are born with the capacity to learn how to dream, and the
humans who live before us teach us how to dream the w ay society
dreams. The outside dream has so many rules that when a new
human is born, we hook the child's attention and int roduce these rules
into his or her mind. The outside dream uses Mom and D ad, the
schools, and religion to teach us how to dream.
Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on
that which we want to perceive. We can perceive mill ions of things
simultaneously, but using our attention, we can hold whatever we
want to perceive in the foreground of our mind. The adults around us
hooked our attention and put information into our min ds through
repetition. That is the way we learned everything w e know.
By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We
learned how to behave in society: what to believe a nd what not to
believe; what is acceptable and what is not accepta ble; what is
good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right
and what is wrong. It was all there already — all t hat knowledge, all
those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world.

When you were in school, you sat in a little chair and put your
attention on what the teacher was teaching you. Whe n you went to
church, you put your attention on what the priest o r minister was
telling you. It is the same dynamic with Mom and Dad, brothers and
sisters: They were all trying to hook your attentio n. We also learn to
hook the attention of other humans, and we develop a need for
attention which can become very competitive. Children compete for
the attention of their parents, their teachers, the ir friends. "Look at me!
Look at what I'm doing! Hey, I'm here." The need for attention
becomes very strong and continues into adulthood. The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to
believe, beginning with the language that we speak. Language is the
code for understanding and communication between human s. Every
letter, every word in each language is an agreement . We call this a
page in a book; the word page is an agreement that we understand.
Once we understand the code, our attention is hooke d and the
energy is transferred from one person to another. It was not your choice to speak English. You didn't choose your religion
or your moral values — they were already there befo re you were born.
We never had the opportunity to choose what to beli eve or what not
to believe. We never chose even the smallest of thes e agreements.
We didn't even choose our own name. As children, we didn't have the opportunity to choo se our beliefs, but
we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the d ream
of the planet via other humans. The only way to stor e information is by
agreement. The outside dream may hook our attention, b ut if we
don't agree, we don't store that information. As soo n as we agree, we
believe it, and this is called faith. To have faith is to b elieve
unconditionally. That's how we learn as children. Children believe e verything adults
say. We agree with them, and our faith is so strong that the belief
system controls our whole dream of life. We didn't ch oose these
beliefs, and we may have rebelled against them, but w e were not
strong enough to win the rebellion. The result is surrender to the beliefs with our agreement.
I call this process the domestication of humans. And through this
domestication we learn how to live and how to dream. In human domestication, the information from the outside dream i s conveyed to
the inside dream, creating our whole belief system. First the child is
taught the names of things: Mom, Dad, milk, bottle. D ay by day, at
home, at school, at church, and from television, we a re told how to
live, what kind of behavior is acceptable. The outs ide dream teaches
us how to be a human. We have a whole concept of wha t a "woman"
is and what a "man" is. And we also learn to judge: We judge
ourselves, judge other people, judge the neighbors.
Children are domesticated the same way that we domesti cate a
dog, a cat, or any other animal. In order to teach a dog we punish
the dog and we give it rewards. We train our childr en whom we love
so much the same way that we train any domesticated a nimal: with a
system of punishment and reward. We are told, "You're a good boy," or "You're a good girl," when we do
what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don't, we ar e "a bad
girl" or "a bad boy." When we went against the rules we were punished; wh en we went
along with the rules we got a reward. We were punis hed many times a
day, and we were also rewarded many times a day. Soon we
became afraid of being punished and also afraid of n ot receiving the
reward. The reward is the attention that we got fro m our parents or
from other people like siblings, teachers, and frien ds. We soon develop
a need to hook other people's attention in order to get the reward.
The reward feels good, and we keep doing what other s want us to do
in order to get the reward. With that fear of being punished and that
fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are
not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else.
We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please the t eachers at
school, we try to please the church, and so we star t acting. We
pretend to be what we are not because we are afraid of being
rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fea r of not being
good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We
become a copy of Mamma's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs, soc iety's beliefs,
and religion's beliefs. All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication. And
when we are old enough for our mind to understand, w e learn the
word no. The adults say, "Don't do this and don't do that." We rebel
and say, "No!" We rebel because we are defending ou r freedom. We

want to be ourself, but we are very little, and the adults are big and
strong. After a certain time we are afraid because w e know that every
time we do something wrong we are going to be punishe d.
The domestication is so strong that at a certain po int in our life we no
longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don't need Mom or Dad,
the school or the church to domesticate us. We are s o well trained
that we are our own domesticator. We are an autodomesticated animal. We can now domestic ate
ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and
using the same system of punishment and reward. We pun ish ourselves
when we don't follow the rules according to our bel ief system; we
reward ourselves when we are the "good boy" or "goo d girl."
The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules o ur mind. Without
question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our t ruth. We base all of
our judgments according to the Book of Law, even if these judgments
go against our own inner nature. Even moral laws li ke the Ten
Commandments are programmed into our mind in the process of
domestication. One by one, all these agreements go in to the Book of
Law, and these agreements rule our dream. There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything,
including the weather, the dog, the cat — everythin g. The inner Judge
uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don't
do, everything we think and don't think, and everyt hing we feel and
don't feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of t his Judge. Every time
we do something that goes against the Book of Law, t he Judge says
we are guilty, we need to be punished, we should be ashamed. This
happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.
There is another part of us that receives the judgme nts, and this part is
called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the g uilt, and the
shame. It is the part of us that says, "Poor me, I'm n ot good enough, I'm
not intelligent enough, I'm not attractive enough, I 'm not worthy of
love, poor me." The big Judge agrees and says, "Yes, you are not
good enough." And this is all based on a belief sys tem that we never
chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later
when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own
decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives. Whatever goes against the Book of Law will make you feel a funny
sensation in your solar plexus, and it's called fea r. Breaking the rules in
the Book of Law opens your emotional wounds, and you r reaction is to
create emotional poison. Because everything that is in the Book of
Law has to be true, anything that challenges what y ou believe is
going to make you feel unsafe. Even if the Book of L aw is wrong, it
makes youfeel safe.
That is why we need a great deal of courage to chal lenge our own
beliefs. Because even if we know we didn't choose a ll these beliefs, it
is also true that we agreed to all of them. The agre ement is so strong
that even if we understand the concept of it not be ing true, we feel
the blame, the guilt, and the shame that occur if we go against these
rules. Just as the government has a book of laws that rule the society's
dream, our belief system is the Book of Laws that rul es our personal
dream. All these laws exist in our mind, we believe t hem, and the
Judge inside us bases everything on these rules. Th e Judge decrees,
and the Victim suffers the guilt and punishment. But who says there is
justice in this dream? True justice is paying only o nce for each mistake.
True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.
How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer i s thousands
of times. The human is the only animal on earth that p ays a thousand
times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every
mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memor y. We
make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we
punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don't need
to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge o urselves
again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again,
and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she a lso reminds us of
the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again,
and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair? How many times do we make our spouse, our children, or our parents
pay for the same mistake? Every time we remember the mist ake, we
blame them again and send them all the emotional poison we feel at
the injustice, and then we make them pay again for th e same
mistake. Is that justice? The Judge in the mind is wr ong because the
belief system, the Book of Law, is wrong. The whole dream is based on
false law. Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we ha ve stored in our

minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these
lies. In the dream of the planet it is normal for humans to suffer, to live in
fear, and to create emotional dramas. The outside dr eam is not a
pleasant dream; it is a dream of violence, a dream of fear, a dream of
war, a dream of injustice. The personal dream of human s will vary, but
globally it is mostly a nightmare. If we look at human society we see a
place so difficult to live in because it is ruled b y fear. Throughout the
world we see human suffering, anger, revenge, addict ions, violence in
the street, and tremendous injustice. It may exist at different levels in
different countries around the world, but fear is c ontrolling the outside
dream. If we compare the dream of human society with the desc ription of hell
that religions all around the world have promulgated , we find they are
exactly the same. Religions say that hell is a place of punishment, a
place of fear, pain, and suffering, a place where t he fire burns you.
Fire is generated by emotions that come from fear. Wh enever we feel
the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we e xperience a fire
burning within us. We are living in a dream of hell.
If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell i s all around us. Others
may warn us that if we don't do what they say we sho uld do, we will
go to hell. Bad news! We are already in hell, inclu ding the people who
tell us that. No human can condemn another to hell be cause we are
already there. Others can put us into a deeper hell , true. But only if we
allow this to happen. Every human has his or her own personal dream, and j ust like the
society dream, it is often ruled by fear. We learn to dream hell in our
own life, in our personal dream. The same fears manif est in different
ways for each person, of course, but we experience anger, jealousy,
hate, envy, and other negative emotions. Our persona l dream can
also become an ongoing nightmare where we suffer and live in a
state of fear. But we don't need to dream a nightmare . It is possible to
enjoy a pleasant dream. All of humanity is searching for truth, justice, and beauty. We are on an
eternal search for the truth because we only believ e in the lies we
have stored in our mind. We are searching for justic e because in the
belief system we have, there is no justice. We searc h for beauty
because it doesn't matter how beautiful a person is, we don't believe that person has beauty. We keep searching and searc hing, when
everything is already within us. There is no truth to find. Wherever we
turn our heads, all we see is the truth, but with t he agreements and
beliefs we have stored in our mind, we have no eyes for this truth.
We don't see the truth because we are blind. What b linds us are all
those false beliefs we have in our mind. We have the need to be right
and to make others wrong. We trust what we believe, and our beliefs
set us up for suffering. It is as if we live in the middle of a fog that
doesn't let us see any further than our own nose. W e live in a fog that is
not even real. This fog is a dream, your personal d ream of life — what
you believe, all the concepts you have about what y ou are, all the
agreements you have made with others, with yourself, and even with
God. Your whole mind is a fog which the Toltecs call ed a mitote
(pronounced MIH-TOE '-TAY). Your mind is a dream wher e a thousand
people talk at the same time, and nobody understands each other.
This is the condition of the human mind — a big mitote, and with that
big mitote you cannot see what you really are. In India they c all the
mitote maya, which means illusion. It is the personality's notion of "I
am." Everything you believe about yourself and the w orld, all the
concepts and programming you have in your mind, are a ll the mitote.
We cannot see who we truly are; we cannot see that we are not free.
That is why humans resist life. To be alive is the b iggest fear humans
have. Death is not the biggest fear we have; our bi ggest fear is taking
the risk to be alive — the risk to be alive and exp ress what we really
are. Just being ourself is the biggest fear of human s. We have learned
to live our life trying to satisfy other people's d emands. We have
learned to live by other people's points of view be cause of the fear of
not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone
else. During the process of domestication, we form an image of what
perfection is in order to try to be good enough. We create an image
of how we should be in order to be accepted by ever ybody. We
especially try to please the ones who love us, like Mom and Dad, big
brothers and sisters, the priests and the teacher. Trying to be good
enough for them, we create an image of perfection, b ut we don't fit
this image. We create this image, but this image is no t real. We are
never going to be perfect from this point of view. N ever!
Not being perfect, we reject ourselves. And the lev el of self-rejection
depends upon how effective the adults were in break ing our integrity.

After domestication it is no longer about being good enough for
anybody else. We are not good enough for ourselves because we
don't fit with our own image of perfection. We canno t forgive
ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rath er what we believe
we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not b eing perfect.
We know we are not what we believe we are supposed to be and so
we feel false, frustrated, and dishonest. We try to hide ourselves, and
we pretend to be what we are not. The result is tha t we feel unau-
thentic and wear social masks to keep others from not icing this. We
are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we
pretend to be. We judge others according to our imag e of perfection
as well, and naturally they fall short of our expec tations.
We dishonor ourselves just to please other people. We even do harm
to our physical bodies just to be accepted by other s. You see
teenagers taking drugs just to avoid being rejected by other
teenagers. They are not aware that the problem is th at they don't
accept themselves. They reject themselves because the y are not
what they pretend to be. They wish to be a certain way, but they are
not, and for this they carry shame and guilt. Humans punish
themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be.
They become very self-abusive, and they use other pe ople to abuse
themselves as well. But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the
Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that make us do this. True, we
find people who say their husband or wife, or mother or father,
abused them, but you know that we abuse ourselves m uch more than
that. The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed. If
we make a mistake in front of people, we try to deny the mistake and
cover it up. But as soon as we are alone, the Judge becomes so
strong, the guilt is so strong, and we feel so stup id, or so bad, or so
unworthy. In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have
abused yourself. And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that
you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little
more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that
person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself,
you will probably stay in the relationship and tole rate it endlessly. If you abuse yourself very badly, you can even tole rate someone who
beats you up, humiliates you, and treats you like di rt. Why? Because in
your belief system you say, "I deserve it. This pers on is doing me a favor
by being with me. I'm not worthy of love and respect. I'm not good
enough." We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we
cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-lov e we have, the
less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse come s from self-
rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an ima ge of what it
means to be perfect and never measuring up to that id eal. Our image
of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don't
accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don't a ccept others
the way they are. There are thousands of agreements you have made with yourself, with
other people, with your dream of life, with God, wit h society, with your
parents, with your spouse, with your children. But the most important
agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In th ese
agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you f eel, what you
believe, and how to behave. The result is what you call your
personality. In these agreements you say, "This is w hat I am. This is what
I believe. I can do certain things, and some things I cannot do. This is
reality, that is fantasy; this is possible, that is impossible."
One single agreement is not such a problem, but we h ave many
agreements that make us suffer, that make us fail in l ife. If you want to
live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to break
those agreements that are fear-based and claim your p ersonal
power. The agreements that come from fear require us t o expend a
lot of energy, but the agreements that come from love help us to
conserve energy and even gain extra energy. Each of us is born with a certain amount of personal power that we
rebuild every day after we rest. Unfortunately, we spend all our
personal power first to create all these agreements and then to keep
these agreements. Our personal power is dissipated b y all the
agreements we have created, and the result is that w e feel powerless.
We have just enough power to survive each day, beca use most of it is
used to keep the agreements that trap us in the drea m of the planet.
How can we change the entire dream of our life when we have no
power to change even the smallest agreement?

If we can see it is our agreements which rule our li fe, and we don't like
the dream of our life, we need to change the agreemen ts. When we
are finally ready to change our agreements, there ar e four very
powerful agreements that will help us break those ag reements that
come from fear and deplete our energy. Each time you break an agreement, all the power you u sed to create
it returns to you. If you adopt these four new agre ements, they will
create enough personal power for you to change the entire system of
your old agreements. You need a very strong will in order to adopt the F our Agreements —
but if you can begin to live your life with these a greements, the
transformation in your life will be amazing. You will see the drama of
hell disappear right before your very eyes. Instead of living in a dream
of hell, you will be creating a new dream — your per sonal dream of
heaven. 2 THE FIRST AGREEMENT
Be Impeccable With Your Word
THE FIRST AGREEMENT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE and a lso the most
difficult one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement
you will be able to transcend to the level of exist ence I call heaven dn
earth. The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. It sounds very
simple, but it is very, very powerful. Why your word? Your word is the power that you have to create. Your
word is the gift that comes directly from God. The Gospel of John in
the Bible, speaking of the creation of the universe , says, "In the
beginning there was the word, and the word was with God, and the
word is God." Through the word you express your cre ative power. It is
through the word that you manifest everything. Regar dless of what
language you speak, your intent manifests through th e word. What
you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be
manifested through the word. The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. Th e word is a force; it
is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and
thereby to create the events in your life. You can speak. What other
animal on the planet can speak? The word is the most powerful tool
you have as a human; it is the tool of magic. But lik e a sword with two
edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word
can destroy everything around you. One edge is the misuse of the
word, which creates a living hell. The other edge i s the impeccability
of the word, which will only create beauty, love, a nd heaven on
earth. Depending upon how it is used, the word can set you free, or it
can enslave you even more than you know. All the mag ic you possess
is based on your word. Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your
word is black magic. The word is so powerful that one word can change a life or destroy
the lives of millions of people. Some years ago one ma n in Germany,
by the use of the word, manipulated a whole country of the most
intelligent people. He led them into a world war wit h just the power of
his word. He convinced others to commit the most atroc ious acts of

violence. He activated people's fear with the word, and like a big
explosion, there was killing and war all around the world. All over the
world humans destroyed other humans because they were afraid of
each other. Hitler's word, based on fear-generated beliefs and
agreements, will be remembered for centuries. The human mind is like a fertile ground where seeds a re continually
being planted. The seeds are opinions, ideas, and c oncepts. You plant
a seed, a thought, and it grows. The word is like a seed, and the
human mind is so fertile! The only problem is that too often it is fertile
for the seeds of fear. Every human mind is fertile, b ut only for those
kinds of seeds it is prepared for. What is important is to see which kind
of seeds our mind is fertile for, and to prepare it to receive the seeds of
love. Take the example of Hitler: He sent out all those se eds of fear, and
they grew very strong and beautifully achieved mass ive destruction.
Seeing the awesome power of the word, we must underst and what
power comes out of our mouths. One fear or doubt plan ted in our
mind can create an endless drama of events. One word is like a spell,
and humans use the word like black magicians, thought lessly putting
spells on each other. Every human is a magician, and we can either put a sp ell on someone
with our word or we can release someone from a spell . We cast spells
all the time with our opinions. An example: I see a f riend and give him
an opinion that just popped into my mind. I say, "Hmmm! I see that
kind of color in your face in people who are going to get cancer." If
he listens to the word, and if he agrees, he will h ave cancer in less
than one year. That is the power of the word. During our domestication, our parents and siblings g ave their opinions
about us without even thinking. We believed these o pinions and we
lived in fear over these opinions, like not being g ood at swimming, or
sports, or writing. Someone gives an opinion and say s, "Look, this girl is
ugly!" The girl listens, believes she is ugly, and grows up with the idea
that she is ugly. It doesn't matter how beautiful sh e is; as long as she
has that agreement, she will believe that she is ugl y. That is the spell
she is under. By hooking our attention, the word can enter our min d and change a
whole belief for better or for worse. Another examp le: You may
believe you are stupid and you may have believed thi s for as long as you can remember. This agreement can be very tricky, c ausing you to
do a lot of things just to ensure that you are stup id. You may do
something and think to yourself, "I wish I were smart , but I must be
stupid or I wouldn't have done that." The mind goes in hundreds of
different directions, and we could spend days getti ng hooked by just
that one belief in our own stupidity. Then one day someone hooks your attention and using the word, lets
you know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says
and make a new agreement. As a result, you no longer feel or act
stupid. A whole spell is broken, just by the power of the word.
Conversely, if you believe you are stupid, and someo ne hooks your
attention and says, "Yes, you are really the most st upid person I have
ever met," the agreement will be reinforced and become even
stronger. Now let us see what the word impeccability means. Impeccability
means "without sin." Impeccable comes from the Latin pecatus, which
means "sin." The im in impeccable means "without," so impeccable
means "without sin." Religions talk about sin and si nners, but let's
understand what it really means to sin. A sin is any thing that you do
which goes against yourself. Everything you feel or believe or say that
goes against yourself is a sin. You go against your self when you judge
or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly the
opposite. Being impeccable is not going against your self. When you
are impeccable, you take responsibility for your act ions, but you do
not judge or blame yourself. From this point of view, the whole concept of sin ch anges from
something moral or religious to something commonsense. S in-begins
with rejection of yourself. Self-rejection is the b iggest sin that you
commit. In religious terms self-rejection is a "mortal sin," which leads to
death. Impeccability, on the other hand, leads to li fe.
Being impeccable with your word is not using the wor d against
yourself. If I see you in the street and I call you stupid, it appears that
I'm using the word against you. But really I'm using my word against
myself, because you're going to hate me for this, and your hating me
is not good for me. Therefore, if I get angry and wi th my word send all
that emotional poison to you, I'm using the word agai nst myself.
If I love myself I will express that love in my inter actions with you, and
then I am being impeccable with the word, because tha t action will

produce a like reaction. If I love you, then you wi ll love me. If I insult
you, you will insult me. If I have gratitude for you , you will have
gratitude for me. If I'm selfish with you, you will b e selfish with me. If I
use the word to put a spell on you, you are going t o put a spell on me.
Being impeccable with your word is the correct use o f your energy; it
means to use your energy in the direction of truth a nd love for yourself.
If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccabl e with your
word, just with that intention, the truth will manif est through you and
clean all the emotional poison that exists within yo u. But making this
agreement is difficult because we have learned to do precisely the
opposite. We have learned to lie as a habit of our communication
with others and more importantly with ourselves. We a re not
impeccable with the word. The power of the word is completely misused in hell. We use the word
to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Of co urse, we also use it in
the right way, but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread our
personal poison — to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate. The
word is pure magic — the most powerful gift we have a s humans —
and we use it against ourselves. We plan revenge. W e create chaos
with the word. We use the word to create hate betwe en different
races, between different people, between families, b etween nations.
We misuse the word so often, and this misuse is how w e create and
perpetuate the dream of hell. Misuse of the word is how we pull each
other down and keep each other in a state of fear a nd doubt.
Because the word is the magic that humans possess and misuse of the
word is black magic, we are using black magic all the time without
knowing that our word is magic at all. There was a woman, for example, who was intelligent a nd had a very
good heart. She had a daughter whom she adored and l oved very
much. One night she came home from a very bad day at wo rk, tired,
full of emotional tension, and with a terrible head ache. She wanted
peace and quiet, but her daughter was singing and j umping happily.
The daughter was unaware of how her mother was feel ing; she was in
her own world, in her own dream. She felt so wonderf ul, and she was
jumping and singing louder and louder, expressing he r joy and her
love. She was singing so loud that it made her mother 's headache
even worse, and at a certain moment, the mother lost c ontrol. Angrily
she looked at her beautiful little girl and said, " Shut up! You have an
ugly voice. Can you just shut up!" The truth is that the mother's tolerance for any noi se was nonexistent; it
was not that the little girl's voice was ugly. But the daughter believed
what her mother said, and in that moment she made an ag reement
with herself. After that she no longer sang, becaus e she believed her
voice was ugly and would bother anyone who heard it . She became
shy at school, and if she was asked to sing, she re fused. Even speaking
to others became difficult for her. Everything chang ed in the little girl
because of this new agreement: She believed she must repress her
emotions in order to be accepted and loved. Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an
agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system. T his little girl
grew up, and even though she had a beautiful voice, she never sang
again. She developed a whole complex from one spell. This spell was
cast upon her by the one who loved her the most: her own mother.
Her mother didn't notice what she did with her word. She didn't notice
that she used black magic and put a spell on her dau ghter. She didn't
know the power of her word, and therefore she isn't to blame. She did
what her own mother, father, and others had done to her in many
ways. They misused the word. How many times do we do this with our own children? W e give them
these types of opinions and our children carry that black magic for
years and years. People who love us do black magic o n us, but they
don't know what they do. That is why we must forgive them; they don't
know what they do. Another example: You awake in the morning feeling ver y happy. You
feel so wonderful, you stay one or two hours in fro nt of the mirror,
making yourself beautiful. Well, one of your best fr iends says, "What has
happened to you? You look so ugly. Look at the dres s you are
wearing; you look ridiculous." That's it; that is e nough to put you all the
wav down in hell. Maybe this girlfriend just told y ou this to hurt you.
And, she did. She gave you an opinion with all the power of her word
behind it. If you accept the opinion, it becomes an agreement now,
and you put all your power into that opinion. That opinion becomes
black magic. These types of spells are difficult to break. The o nly thing that can
break a spell is to make a new agreement based on tru th. The truth is
the most important part of being impeccable with your word. On one
side of the sword are the lies which create black ma gic, and on the

other side of the sword is the truth which has the power to break the
spell of black magic. Only the truth will set us fre e.
Looking at everyday human interactions, imagine how ma ny times we
cast spells on each other with our word. Over time t his interaction has
become the worst form of black magic, and we call it gossip.
Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it i s pure poison. We
learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were chi ldren, we
heard the adults around us gossiping all the time, o penly giving their
opinions about other people. They even had opinions about people
they didn't know. Emotional poison was transferred a long with the
opinions, and we learned this as the normal way to c ommunicate.
Gossiping has become the main form of communication in human
society. It has become the way we feel close to each other, because
it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as b adly as we do.
There is an old expression that says, "Misery likes company," and
people who are suffering in hell don't want to be a ll alone. Fear and
suffering are an important part of the dream of the p lanet; they are
how the dream of the planet keeps us down. Using the analogy of the human mind as a computer, gos sip can be
compared to a computer virus. A computer virus is a pi ece of
computer language written in the same language all th e other codes
are written in, but with a harmful intent. This code is inserted into the
program of your computer when you least expect it and most of the
time without your awareness. After this code has bee n introduced,
your computer doesn't work quite right, or it doesn' t function at all
because the codes get so mixed up with so many confli cting
messages that it stops producing good results. Human gossip works exactly the same way. For example, you are
beginning a new class with a new teacher and you ha ve looked
forward to it for a long time. On the first day of c lass, you run into
someone who took the class before, who tells you, "O h that instructor
was such a pompous jerk! He didn't know what he was talking about,
and he was a pervert too, so watch out!" You are immediately imprinted with the word and the emo tional code
the person had when saying this, but what you are n ot aware of is his
or her motivation in telling you. This person could be angry for failing
the class or simply making an assumption based on fear s and prejudices, but because you have learned to ingest information like a
child, some part of you believes the gossip, and yo u go on to the
class. As the teacher speaks, you feel the poison come up inside you and
you don't realize you see the teacher through the e yes of the person
who gave you that gossip. Then you start talking to other people in the
class about this, and they start to see the teacher in the same way: as
a jerk and a pervert. You really hate the class, an d soon you decide to
drop out. You blame the teacher, but it is gossip th at is to blame.
All of this mess can be caused by one little computer virus. One little
piece of misinformation can break down communication be tween
people, causing every person it touches to become in fected and
contagious to others. Imagine that every single time others gossip to
you, they insert a computer virus into your mind, cau sing you to think a
little less clearly every time. Then imagine that in an effort to clean up
your own confusion and get some relief from the poiso n, you gossip
and spread these viruses to someone else. Now imagine this pattern going on in a never-ending chain between
all the humans on earth. The result is a world full of humans who can
only read information through circuits that are clog ged with a
poisonous, contagious virus. Once again, this poiso nous virus is what
the Toltecs called the mitote, the chaos of a thousand different voices
all trying to talk at once in the mind. Even worse are the black magicians or "computer hacke rs" who
intentionally spread the virus. Think back to a time when you or
someone you know was angry with someone else and desi red
revenge. In order to seek revenge you said something to or about that
person with the intention of spreading poison and ma king that person
feel bad about him- or herself. As children we do t his quite
thoughtlessly, but as we grow older we become much mor e
calculated in our efforts to bring other people dow n. Then we lie to
ourselves and say that person received a just punis hment for their
wrongdoing. When we see the world through a computer virus, it i s easy to justify
the cruelest behavior. What we don't see is that mis use of our word is
putting us deeper into hell.

For years we have received the gossip and spells fr om the words of
others, but also from the way we use our word with o urselves. We talk
to ourselves constantly and most of the time we say t hings like, "Oh, I
look fat, I look ugly. I'm getting old, I'm losing my hair. I'm stupid, I never
understand anything. I will never be good enough, a nd I'm never
going to be perfect." Do you see how we use the wor d against
ourselves? We must begin to understand what the wor d is and what
the word does. If you understand the first agreement, be impeccable
with your word, you begin to see all the changes that can happen in
your life. Changes first in the way you deal with y ourself, and later in
the way you deal with other people, especially thos e you love the
most. Consider how many times you have gossiped about the p erson you
love the most to gain the support of others for your point of view. How
many times have you hooked other people's attention, and spread
poison about your loved one in order to make your op inion right? Your
opinion is nothing but your point of view. It is no t necessarily true. Your
opinion comes from your beliefs, your own ego, and yo ur own dream.
We create all this poison and spread it to others j ust so we can feel
right about our own point of view. If we adopt the first agreement, and become impeccable with our
word, any emotional poison will eventually be clean ed from our mind
and from our communication in our personal relationsh ips, including
with our pet dog or cat. Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone
putting a negative spell on you. You will only rece ive a negative idea
if your mind is fertile ground for that idea. When y ou become
impeccable with your word, your mind is no longer fer tile ground for
words that come from black magic. Instead, it is ferti le for the words
that come from love. You can measure the impeccability of your
word by your level of self-love. How much you love y ourself and how
you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and
integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you
feel good; you feel happy and at peace. You can transcend the dream of hell just by making th e agreement to
be impeccable with your word. Right now I am planting that seed in
your mind. Whether or not the seed grows depends upo n how fertile
your mind is for the seeds of love. It is up to you to make this
agreement with yourself: / am impeccable with my word. Nurture this seed, and as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love
to replace the seeds of fear. This first agreement w ill change the kind
of seeds your mind is fertile for. Be impeccable with your word. This is
the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free, if you
want to be happy, if you want to transcend the leve l of existence that
is hell. It is very powerful. Use the word in the c orrect way. Use the word
to share your love. Use white magic, beginning with yourself. Tell
yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how
much you love yourself. Use the word to break all th ose teeny, tiny
agreements that make you suffer. It is possible. It is possible because I did it, an d I am no better than you.
No, we are exactly the same. We have the same kind of brain, the
same kind of bodies; we are humans. If I was able to break those
agreements and create new agreements, then you can do the same.
If I can be impeccable with my word, why not you? Jus t this one
agreement can change your whole life. Impeccability o f the word
can lead you to personal freedom, to huge success a nd abundance;
it can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.
Just imagine what you can create with impeccability o f the word.
With the impeccability of the word you can transcend the dream of
fear and live a different life. You can live in hea ven in the middle of
thousands of people living in hell because you are immune to that
hell. You can attain the kingdom of heaven from this one agreement:
Be impeccable with your word.

THE SECOND AGREEMENT
Don t Take Anytning Personally
THE NEXT THREE AGREEMENTS ARE REALLY BORN from the f irst
agreement. The second agreement is don't take any thing personally.
Whatever happens around you, don't take it personal ly. Using an
earlier example, if I see you on the street and I sa y, "Hey, you are so
stupid," without knowing you, it's not about you; i t's about me. If you
take it personally, then perhaps you believe you ar e stupid. Maybe
you think to yourself, "How does he know? Is he cla irvoyant, or can
everybody see how stupid I am?" You take it personally because you agree with whate ver was said. As
soon as you agree, the poison goes through you, and you are trapped
in the dream of hell. What causes you to be trapped is what we call
personal importance. Personal importance, or taking things personally,
is the maximum expression of selfishness because we mak e the
assumption that everything is about "me." During the period of our
education, or our domestication, we learn to take ev erything
personally. We think we are responsible for everyth ing. Me, me, me,
always me! Nothing other people do is because of you. It is be cause of
themselves. All people live in their own dream, in th eir own mind; they
are in a completely different world from the one we l ive in. When we
take something personally, we make the assumption that they know
what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if oth ers insult you
directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do,
and the opinions they give are according to the agr eements they
have in their own minds. Their point of view comes fr om all the
programming they received during domestication. If someone gives you an opinion and says, "Hey, you look so fat," don't
take it personally, because the truth is that this person is dealing with
his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. Tha t person tried to send
poison to you and if you take it personally, then y ou take that poison
and it becomes yours. Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can h ook you easily
with one little opinion and feed you whatever poiso n they want, and
because you take it personally, you eat it up. You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it beco mes your
garbage. But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the
middle of hell. Immunity to poison in the middle of hell is the gift o f this agreement.
When you take things personally, then you feel offe nded, and your
reaction is to defend your beliefs and create confl icts. You make
something big out of something so little, because yo u have the need
to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be
right by giving them your own opinions. In the same w ay, whatever
you feel and do is just a projection of your own pe rsonal dream, a
reflection of your own agreements. What you say, wha t you do, and
the opinions you have are according to the agreement s you have
made — and these opinions have nothing to do with me.
It is not important to me what you think about me, and I don't take
what you think personally. I don't take it personal ly when people say,
"Miguel, you are the best," and I also don't take i t personally when they
say, "Miguel, you are the worst." I know that when you are happy you
will tell me, "Miguel, you are such an angel!" But, when you are mad at
me you will say, "Oh, Miguel, you are such a devil! You are so
disgusting. How can you say those things?" Either w ay, it does not
affect me because I know what I am. I don't have the need to be
accepted. I don't have the need to have someone tell me, "Miguel,
you are doing so good!" or "How dare you do that!" No, I don't take it personally. Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I
know is your problem and not my problem. It is the wa y you see the
world. It is nothing personal, because you are deal ing with yourself,
not with me. Others are going to have their own opin ion according to
their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me,
but it is about them. You may even tell me, "Miguel, what you are saying is hurting me." But
it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it i s that you have wounds
that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting y ourself. There is no
way that I can take this personally. Not because I don't believe in you
or don't trust you, but because I know that you see the world with

different eyes, with your eyes. You create an entir e picture or movie in
your mind, and in that picture you are the director, you are the
producer, you are the mam actor or actress. Everyone else is a
secondary actor or actress. It is your movie. The way you see that movie is according to the agree ments you have
made with life. Your point of view is something perso nal to you. It is no
one's truth but yours. Then, if you get mad at me, I know you are
dealing with yourself. I am the excuse for you to ge t mad. And you get
mad because you are afraid, because you are dealing with fear. If
you are not afraid, there is no way you will get mad at me. If you are
not afraid, there is no way you will hate me. If you are not afraid, there
is no way you will be jealous or sad. If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for any of those
emotions. If you don't feel any of those emotions, it is logical that you
will feel good. When you feel good, everything arou nd you is good.
When everything around you is great, everything make s you happy.
You are loving everything that is around you, becau se you are loving
yourself. Because you like the way you are. Because you are content
with you. Because you are happy with your life. You are happy with
the movie that you are producing, happy with your ag reements with
life. You are at peace, and you are happy. You live in that state of
bliss where everything is so wonderful, and everyth ing is so beautiful. In
that state of bliss you are making love all the time with everything that
you perceive. Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don't take it personally. If they
tell you how wonderful you are, they are not saying that because of
you. You know you are wonderful. It is not necessar y to believe other
people who tell you that you are wonderful. Don't t ake anything
personally. Even if someone got a gun and shot you i n the head, it
was nothing personal. Even at that extreme. Even the opinions you have about yourself are not n ecessarily true;
therefore, you don't need to take whatever you hear in your own
mind personally. The mind has the ability to talk to itself, but it also has
the ability to hear information that is available f rom other realms.
Sometimes you hear a voice in your mind, and you may wo nder
where it came from. This voice may have come from anoth er reality in
which there are living beings very similar to the hu man mind. The
Toltecs called these beings Allies. In Europe, Afri ca, and India they
called them the Gods. Our mind also exists in the level of the Gods. Our mi nd also lives in that
reality and can perceive that reality.The mind sees with the eyes and
perceives this waking reality. But the mind also see s and perceives
without the eyes, although the reason is hardly awa re of this
perception. The mind lives in more than one dimension. There may be
times when you have ideas that don't originate in yo ur mind, but you
are perceiving them with your mind. You have the righ t to believe or
not believe these voices and the right not to take what they say
personally. We have a choice whether or not to beli eve the voices we
hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to
believe and agree with in the dream of the planet. The mind can also talk and listen to itself. The mind is divided as your
body is divided. Just as you can say, "I have one h and, and I can
shake my other hand and feel the other hand," the min d can talk to
itself. Part of the mind is speaking, and the other part is listening. It is a
big problem when a thousand parts of your mind are al l speaking at
the same time. This is called a mitote, remember?
The mitote can be compared to a huge marketplace where
thousands of people are talking and bartering at th e same time. Each
one has different thoughts and feelings; each one h as a different
point of view. The programming in the mind — all of th ose agreements
we have made — are not necessarily compatible with ea ch other.
Every agreement is like a separate living being; it has its own
personality and its own voice. There are conflictin g agreements that
go against other agreements and on and on until it b ecomes a big
war in the mind. The mitote is the reason humans hardly know what
they want, how they want it, or when they want it. They don't agree
with themselves because there are parts of the mind t hat want one
thing, and other parts that want exactly the opposi te.
Some part of the mind has objections to certain thoug hts and actions,
and another part supports the actions of the opposi ng thoughts. All
these little living beings create inner conflict be cause they are alive
and they each have a voice. Only by making an invent ory of our
agreements will we uncover all of the conflicts in t he mind and
eventually make order out of the chaos of the mitote.
Don't take anything personally because by taking things personally
you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. Humans ar e addicted to
suffering at different levels and to different degr ees, and we support
each other in maintaining these addictions. Humans a gree to help

each other suffer. If you have the need to be abuse d, you will find it
easy to be abused by others. Likewise, if you are w ith people who
need to suffer, something in you makes you abuse the m. It is as if they
have a note on their back that says, "Please kick me ." They are asking
for justification for their suffering. Their addict ion to suffering is nothing
but an agreement that is reinforced every day. Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your
awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not
expect people to tell you the truth because they al so lie to
themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to
believe what someone says to you. When we really see other people as they are without taking it
personally, we can never be hurt by what they say o r do. Even if
others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to yo u because they are
afraid. They are afraid you will discover that they are not perfect. It is
painful to take that social mask off. If others say one thing, but do
another, you are lying to yourself if you don't lis ten to their actions. But
if you are truthful with yourself, you will save yo urself a lot of emotional
pain. Telling yourself the truth about it may hurt, but you don't need to
be attached to the pain. Healing is on the way, and it's just a matter of
time before things will be better for you. If someone is not treating you with love and respect , it is a gift if they
walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away , you will surely
endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walki ng away may
hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually he al. Then you can
choose what you really want. You will find that you don't need to trust
others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you
avoid many upsets in your life. Your anger, jealousy , and envy will
disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappe ar if you don't
take things personally. If you can make this second agreement a habit, you wi ll find that
nothing can put you back into hell. There is a huge amount of
freedom that comes to you when you take nothing perso nally. You
become immune to black magicians, and no spell can aff ect you
regardless of how strong it may be. The whole world can gossip about
you, and if you don't take it personally you are im mune. Someone can
intentionally send emotional poison, and if you don 't take it personally, you will not eat it. When you don't take the emotion al poison, it
becomes even worse in the sender, but not in you. You can see how important this agreement is. Taking n othing
personally helps you to break many habits and routin es that trap you
in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering. J ust by practicing
this second agreement you begin to break dozens of t eeny, tiny
agreements that cause you to suffer. And if you prac tice the first two
agreements, you will break seventy-five percent of the teeny, tiny
agreements that keep you trapped in hell. Write this agreement on paper, and put it on your re frigerator to
remind you all the time: Don't take anything personally.
As you make a habit of not taking anything personall y, you won't
need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to
trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible
for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you
truly understand this, and refuse to take things pe rsonally, you can
hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions o f others.
If you keep this agreement, you can travel around th e world with your
heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You c an say, "I love
you," without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what
you need. You can say yes, or you can say no — what ever you
choose — without guilt or self-judgment. You can cho ose to follow
your heart always. Then you can be in the middle of hell and still
experience inner peace and happiness. You can stay in your state of
bliss, and hell will not affect you at all.

THE THIRD AGREEMENT Don t Make Assumptions

THE THIRD AGREEMENT IS DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS.
We have the tendency to make assumptions about everyt hing. The
problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.
We could swear they are real. We make assumptions abo ut what
others are doing or thinking — we take it personall y — then we blame
them and react by sending emotional poison with our w ord. That is
why whenever we make assumptions, we're asking for pr oblems. We
make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it perso nally, and
we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing. All the sadness and drama you have lived in your li fe was rooted in
making assumptions and taking things personally. Take a moment to
consider the truth of this statement. The whole worl d of control
between humans is about making assumptions and taking things
personally. Our whole dream of hell is based on that .
We create a lot of emotional poison just by making as sumptions and
taking it personally, because usually we start goss iping about our
assumptions. Remember, gossiping is the way we communica te to
each other in the dream of hell and transfer poison to one another.
Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions,
and believe we are right about the assumptions; then we defend our
assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption,
because assumptions set us up for suffering. The big mitote in the human mind creates a lot of chaos which causes
us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand every thing. We only
see what we want to see and hear what we want to he ar. We don't
perceive things the way they are. We have the habit of dreaming with
no basis in reality. We literally dream things up in our imaginations.
Because we don't understand something, we make an ass umption
about the meaning, and when the truth comes out, the bubble of our
dream pops and we find out it was not what we though t it was at all. An example: You are walking in the mall, and you see a person you
like. That person turns to you and smiles, and then walks away. You
can make a lot of assumptions just because of this o ne experience.
With these assumptions you can create a whole fantas y. And you
really want to believe this fantasy and make it real . A whole dream
begins to form just from your assumptions, and you can believe, "Oh,
this person really likes me." In your mind a whole re lationship begins
from that. Maybe you even get married in this fantasy land. But the
fantasy is in your mind, in your personal dream.
Making assumptions in our relationships is really as king for problems.
Often we make the assumption that our partners know w hat we think
and that we don't have to say what we want. We assu me they are
going to do what we want, because they know us so w ell. If they don't
do what we assume they should do, we feel so hurt an d say, "You
should have known." Another example: You decide to get married, and you ma ke the
assumption that your partner sees marriage the same wa y that you
do. Then you live together and you find out this is not true. This creates
a lot of conflict, but you still don't try to clari fy your feelings about
marriage. The husband comes home from work and the wife is mad,
and the husband doesn't know why. Maybe it's becaus e the wife
made an assumption. Without telling him what she wants , she makes
an assumption that he knows her so well, that he kno ws what she
wants, as if he can read her mind. She gets so upset because he fails
to meet her expectations. Making assumptions in relat ionships leads to
a lot of fights, a lot of difficulties, a lot of mis understandings with
people we supposedly love. In any kind of relationship we can make the assumptio n that others
know what we think, and we don't have to say what w e want. They
are going to do what we want because they know us s o well. If they
don't do what we want, what we assume they should do , we feel hurt
and think, "How could you do that? You should know. " Again, we
make the assumption that the other person knows what we want. A
whole drama is created because we make this assumption and then
put more assumptions on top of it. It is very interesting how the human mind works. We h ave the need to
justify everything, to explain and understand every thing, in order to
feel safe. We have millions of questions that need a nswers because
there are so many things that the reasoning mind cann ot explain. It is

not important if the answer is correct; just the ans wer itself makes us
feel safe. This is why we make assumptions. If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don't tell
us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need t o know and to
replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear somet hing and
we don't understand, we make assumptions about what i t means and
then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of as sumptions
because we don't have the courage to ask questions. These
assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time
because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have
agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we hav e agreed that if
people love us, they should know what we want or ho w we feel. When
we believe something we assume we are right about it to the point
that we will destroy relationships in order to defe nd our position.
We make the assumption that everyone sees life the wa y we do. We
assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge
the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. This is the biggest
assumption that humans make. And this is why we have a fear of
being ourselves around others. Because we think eve ryone else will
judge us, victimize us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves. So
even before others have a chance to reject us, we h ave already
rejected ourselves. That is the way the human mind wo rks.
We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this cr eates a lot of
inner conflict. "I think I am able to do this." You make this assumption,
for instance, then you discover you aren't able to do it. You
overestimate or underestimate yourself because you ha ven't taken
the time to ask yourself questions and to answer the m. Perhaps you
need to gather more facts about a particular situati on. Or maybe you
need to stop lying to yourself about what you truly want.
Often when you go into a relationship with someone y ou like, you
have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to
see and you deny there are things you don't like ab out that person.
You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. The n you make
assumptions, and one of the assumptions is "My love w ill change this
person." But this is not true. Your love will not c hange anybody. If others
change, it's because they want to change, not becau se you can
change them. Then something happens between the two of you, and
you get hurt. Suddenly you see what you didn't want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison. N ow you have to
justify your emotional pain and blame them for your c hoices.
We don't need to justify love; it is there or not t here. Real love is
accepting other people the way they are without try ing to change
them. If we try to change them, this means we don't re ally like them.
Of course, if you decide to live with someone, if yo u make that
agreement, it is always better to make that agreement with someone
who is exactly the way you want him or her to be. Fi nd someone
whom you don't have to change at all. It is much easi er to find
someone who is already the way you want him or her to be, instead of
trying to change that person. Also, that person must love you just the
way you are, so he or she doesn't have to change yo u at all. If others
feel they have to change you, that means they really don't love you
just the way you are. So why be with someone if you' re not the way he
or she wants you to be? We have to be what we are, so we don't have to pres ent a false
image. If you love me the way I am, "Okay, take me." If you don't love
me the way I am, "Okay, bye-bye. Find someone else." It may sound
harsh, but this kind of communication means the person al agreements
we make with others are clear and impeccable. Just imagine the day that you stop making assumptions with your
partner and eventually with everyone else in your l ife. Your way of
communicating will change completely, and your relatio nships will no
longer suffer from conflicts created by mistaken assu mptions.
The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions.
Make sure the communication is clear. If you don't u nderstand, ask.
Have the courage to ask questions until you are cle ar as you can be,
and even then do not assume you know all there is to know about a
given situation. Once you hear the answer, you will not have to make
assumptions because you will know the truth. Also, find your voice to ask for what you want. Eve rybody has the right
to tell you no or yes, but you always have the righ t to ask. Likewise,
everybody has the right to ask you, and you have th e right to say yes
or no. If you don't understand something, it is better for you to ask and be
clear, instead of making an assumption. The day you s top making
assumptions you will communicate cleanly and clearly, free of

emotional poison. Without making assumptions your word becomes
impeccable. With clear communication, all of your relationships w ill change, not
only with your partner, but with everyone else. You won't need to
make assumptions because everything becomes so clear. This is what I
want; this is what you want. If we communicate in thi s way, our word
becomes impeccable. If all humans could communicate in this way,
with impeccability of the word, there would be no wa rs, no violence,
no misunderstandings. All human problems would be reso lved if we
could just have good, clear communication. This, then, is the Third Agreement: Don't make assumptions. Just saying
this sounds easy, but I understand that it is diffi cult to do. It is difficult
because we so often do exactly the opposite. We hav e all these
habits and routines that we are not even aware of. Becoming aware
of these habits and understanding the importance of this agreement is
the first step. But understanding its importance is not enough.
Information or an idea is merely the seed in your mind . What will really
make the difference is action. Taking the action over and over again strengthens y our will, nurtures
the seed, and establishes a solid foundation for th e new habit to grow.
After many repetitions these new agreements will beco me second
nature, and you will see how the magic of your word transforms you
from a black magician into a white magician. A white magician uses the word for creation, giving, sharing, and
loving. By making this one agreement a habit, your wh ole life will be
completely transformed. When you transform your whole dream, magic just happen s in your
life. What you need comes to you easily because spi rit moves freely
through you. This is the mastery of intent, the maste ry of the spirit, the
mastery of love, the mastery of gratitude, and the mas tery of life. This is
the goal of the Toltec. This is the path to persona l freedom. 5 THE FOURTH AGREEMENT
Always Do Your Best
THERE is JUST ONE MORE AGREEMENT, BUT IT'S THE one that allows the
other three to become deeply ingrained habits. The f ourth agreement
is about the action of the first three: Always do your best.
Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less.
But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from
one moment to the next. Everything is alive and chang ing all the time,
so your best will sometimes be high quality, and oth er times it will not
be as good. When you wake up refreshed and energize d in the
morning, your best will be better than when you are tired at night. Your
best will be different when you are healthy as oppo sed to sick, or
sober as opposed to drunk. Your best will depend on whether you are
feeling wonderful and happy, or upset, angry, or je alous.
In your everyday moods your best can change from one moment to
another, from one hour to the next, from one day to a nother. Your
best will also change over time. As you build the ha bit of the four new
agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.
Regardless of the quality, keep doing your best — n o more and no less
than your best. If you try too hard to do more than your best, you will
spend more energy than is needed and in the end your best will not
be enough. When you overdo, you deplete your body a nd go against
yourself, and it will take you longer to accomplish your goal. But if you
do less than your best, you subject yourself to fru strations, self-
judgment, guilt, and regrets.
Just do your best — in any circumstance in your lif e. It doesn't matter if
you are sick or tired, if you always do your best t here is no way you
can judge yourself. And if you don't judge yourself there is no way you
are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punis hment. By always
doing your best, you will break a big spell that yo u have been under.
There was a man who wanted to transcend his sufferin g so he went to
a Buddhist temple to find a Master to help him. He we nt to the Master
and asked, "Master, if I meditate four hours a day, how long will it take
me to transcend?"

The Master looked at him and said, "If you meditate f our hours a day,
perhaps you will transcend in ten years." Thinking he could do better the man then said, "Oh, Master, what if I
meditated eight hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?"
The Master looked at him and said, "If you meditate e ight hours a day,
perhaps you will transcend in twenty years." "But why will it take me longer if I meditate more?" t he man asked.
The Master replied, "You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life.
You are here to live, to be happy, and to love. If you can do your best
in two hours of meditation, but you spend eight hour s instead, you will
only grow tired, miss the point, and you won't enjoy your life. Do your
best, and perhaps you will learn that no matter how long you
meditate, you can live, love, and be happy." Doing your best, you are going to live your life in tensely. You are going
to be productive, you are going to be good to yours elf, because you
will be giving yourself to your family, to your comm unity, to everything.
But it is the action that is going to make you feel intensely happy.
When you always do your best, you take action. Doin g your best is
taking the action because you love it, not because you're expecting
a reward. Most people do exactly the opposite: They only take action
when they expect a reward, and they don't enjoy the action. And
that's the reason why they don't do their best. For example, most people go to work every day just t hinking of
payday, and the money they will get from the work the y are doing.
They can hardly wait for Friday or Saturday, whatev er day they
receive their money and can take time off. They are w orking for the
reward, and as a result they resist work. They try to avoid the action
and it becomes more difficult, and they don't do thei r best.
They work so hard all week long, suffering the work , suffering the
action, not because they like to, but because they feel they have to.
They have to work because they have to pay the rent , because they
have to support their family. They have all that fru stration, and when
they do receive their money they are unhappy. They h ave two days
to rest, to do what they want to do, and what do th ey do? They try to
escape. They get drunk because they don't like thems elves. They don't like their life. There are many ways that we hurt o urselves when we
don't like who we are. On the other hand, if you take action just for the sake of doing it,
without expecting a reward, you will find that you enjoy every action
you do. Rewards will come, but you are not attached to the reward.
You can even get more than you would have imagined fo r yourself
without expecting a reward. If we like what we do, if we always do our
best, then we are really enjoying life. We are havi ng fun, we don't get
bored, we don't have frustrations. When you do your best, you don't give the Judge the opportunity to
find you guilty or to blame you. If you have done yo ur best and the
Judge tries to judge you according to your Book of Laws, you've got
the answer: "I did my best." There are no regrets. T hat is why we always
do our best. It is not an easy agreement to keep, bu t this agreement is
really going to set you free. When you do your best you learn to accept yourself. But you have to
be aware and learn from your mistakes. Learning from y our mistakes
means you practice, look honestly at the results, an d keep practicing.
This increases your awareness. Doing your best really doesn't feel like work becau se you enjoy
whatever you are doing. You know you're doing your best when you
are enjoying the action or doing it in a way that w ill not have negative
repercussions for you. You do your best because you want to do it, not
because you have to do it, not because you are tryi ng to please the
Judge, and not because you are trying to please oth er people.
If you take action because you have to, then there is no way you are
going to do your best. Then it is better not to do it. No, you do your
best because doing your best all the time makes you so happy. When
you are doing your best just for the pleasure of do ing it, you are taking
action because you enjoy the action. Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way t hat we deny life.
Inaction is sitting in front of the television ever y day for years because
you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you
are. Expressing what you are is taking action. You can have many
great ideas in your head, but what makes the differe nce is the action.
Without action upon an idea, there will be no manife station, no results,
and no reward.

A good example of this comes from the story about Forr est Gump. He
didn't have great ideas, but he took action. He was happy because
he always did his best at whatever he did. He was r ichly rewarded
without expecting any reward at all. Taking action is being alive. It's
taking the risk to go out and express your dream. T his is different than
imposing your dream on someone else, because everyone has the
right to express his or her dream. Doing your best is a great habit to have. I do my b est in everything I
do and feel. Doing my best has become a ritual in my l ife because I
made the choice to make it a ritual. It's a belief li ke any other belief
that I choose. I make everything a ritual, and I alw ays do my best.
Taking a shower is a ritual for me, and with that ac tion I tell my body
how much I love it. I feel and enjoy the water on my body. I do my
best to fulfill the needs of my body. I do my best t o give to my body
and to receive what my body gives to me. In India they perform a ritual called puja. In this ritual, they take idols
that represent God in many different forms and bathe them, feed
them, and give their love to them. They even chant man tras to these
idols. The idol itself is not important. What is impo rtant is the way they
perform the ritual, the way they say, "I love you, G od."
God is life. God is life in action. The best way to say, "I love you, God,"
is to live your life doing your best. The best way to say, "Thank you,
God," is by letting go of the past and living in th e present moment,
right here and now. Whatever life takes away from yo u, let it go. When
you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive
in the moment. Letting go of the past means you can en joy the dream
that is happening right now. If you live in a past dream, you don't enjoy what is happening right
now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is
no time to miss anyone or anything because you are al ive. Not
enjoying what is happening right now is living in t he past and being
only half alive. This leads to self-pity, suffering , and tears.
You were born with the right to be happy. You were born with the right
to love, to enjoy and to share your love. You are a live, so take your life
and enjoy it. Don't resist life passing through you , because that is God
passing through you. Just your existence proves the existence of God.
Your existence proves the existence of life and ene rgy. We don't need to know or prove anything. Just to be , to take a risk
and enjoy your life, is all that matters. Say no whe n you want to say no,
and yeswhen you want to say yes. You have the right to be you. You
can only be you when you do your best. When you don 't do your best
you are denying yourself the right to be you. That' s a seed that you
should really nurture in your mind. You don't need k nowledge or great
philosophical concepts. You don't need the acceptan ce of others.
You express your own divinity by being alive and by loving yourself
and others. It is an expression of God to say, "Hey , I love you."
The first three agreements will only work if you do your best. Don't
expect that you will always be able to be impeccable with your word.
Your routine habits are too strong and firmly rooted in your mind. But
you can do your best. Don't expect that you will ne ver take anything
personally; just do your best. Don't expect that yo u will never make
another assumption, but you can certainly do your be st.
By doing your best, the habits of misusing your word , taking things
personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and less
frequent with time. You don't need to judge yourself , feel guilty, or
punish yourself if you cannot keep these agreements. If you're doing
your best, you will feel good about yourself even i f you still make
assumptions, still take things personally, and still are not impeccable
with your word. If you do your best always, over and over again, yo u will become a
master of transformation. Practice makes the master. By doing your
best you become a master. Everything you have ever learned, yo u
learned through repetition. You learned to write, t o drive, and even to
walk by repetition. You are a master of speaking you r language
because you practiced. Action is what makes the diff erence.
If you do your best in the search for personal free dom, in the search
for self-love, you will discover that it's just a ma tter of time before you
find what you are looking for. It's not about daydr eaming or sitting for
hours dreaming in meditation. You have to stand up an d be a human.
You have to honor the man or woman that you are. Resp ect your
body, enjoy your body, love your body, feed, clean, and heal your
body. Exercise and do what makes your body feel good . This is a puja
to your body, and that is a communion between you and God.
You don't need to worship idols of the Virgin Mary, the Christ, or the
Buddha. You can if you want to; if it feels good, d o it. Your own body is

a manifestation of God, and if you honor your body e verything will
change for you. When you practice giving love to ev ery part of your
body, you plant seeds of love in your mind, and when they grow, you
will love, honor, and respect your body immensely. Every action then becomes a ritual in which you are honoring God.
After that, the next step is honoring God with ever y thought, every
emotion, every belief, even what is "right" or "wron g." Every thought
becomes a communion with God, and you will live a dre am without
judgments, victimization, and free of the need to gos sip and abuse
yourself. When you honor these four agreements together, ther e is no way that
you will live in hell. There is no way. If you are impeccable with your word, if you don't
take anything personally, if you don't make assumpti ons, if you always
do your best, then you are going to have a beautifu l life. You are
going to control your life one hundred percent. The Four Agreements are a summary of the mastery of tra nsformation,
one of the masteries of the Toltec. You transform hel l into heaven. The
dream of the planet is transformed into your personal dream of
heaven. The knowledge is there; it's just waiting f or you to use it. The
Four Agreements are there; you just need to adopt th ese agreements
and respect their meaning and power. Just do your best to honor these agreements. You can make this
agreement today: I choose to honor the Four Agreement s. It's so
simple and logical that even a child can understand them. But, you
must have a very strong will, a very strong will to keep these
agreements. Why? Because wherever we go we find that our path is
full of obstacles. Everyone tries to sabotage our c ommitment to these
new agreements, and everything around us is a setup for us to break
them. The problem is all the other agreements that are a part of the
dream of the planet. They are alive, and they are ve ry strong.
That's why you need to be a great hunter, a great w arrior, who can
defend these Four Agreements with your life. Your ha ppiness, your
freedom, your entire way of living depends on it. T he warrior's goal is to
transcend this world, to escape from this hell, and never come back.
As the Toltecs teach us, the reward is to transcend the human experience of suffering, to become the embodiment of God. That is
the reward. We really need to use every bit of power we have to succeed in
keeping these agreements. I didn't expect that I cou ld do it at first. I
have fallen many times, but I stood up and kept going . And I fell
again, and I kept going. I didn't feel sorry for mys elf. There was no way
that I felt sorry for myself. I said, "If I fall, I am strong enough, I'm
intelligent enough, I can do it!" I stood up and ke pt going. I fell and I
kept going and going, and each time it became easier and easier.
Yet, in the beginning it was so hard, so difficult.
So if you fall, do not judge. Do not give your Judg e the satisfaction of
turning you into a victim. No, be tough with yoursel f. Stand up and
make the agreement again. "Okay, I broke my agreement to be
impeccable with my word. I will start all over again. I am going to
keep the Four Agreements just for today. Today I wi ll be impeccable
with my word, I will not take anything personally, I will not make any
assumptions, and I am going to do my best." If you break an agreement, begin again tomorrow, and again the
next day. It will be difficult at first, but each d ay will become easier
and easier, until someday you will discover that you are ruling your life
with these Four Agreements. And, you will be surpris ed at the way your
life has been transformed. You don't need to be religious or go to church ever y day. Your love
and self-respect are growing and growing. You can d o it. If I did it, you
can do it also. Do not be concerned about the future; keep your att ention on today,
and stay in the present moment. Just live one day at a time. Always
do your best to keep these agreements, and soon it will be easy f or
you. Today is the beginning of a new dream.

6 THE TOLTEC PATH TO FREEDOM
Breaking Old Agreements
EVERYONE TALKS ABOUT FREEDOM. ALL AROUND the world different
people, different races, different countries are fi ghting for freedom.
But what is freedom? In America we speak of living i n a free country.
But are we really free? Are we free to be who we re ally are? The
answer is no, we are not free. True freedom has to d o with the human
spirit — it is the freedom to be who we really are. Who stops us from being free? We blame the government, we blame
the weather, we blame our parents, we blame religion, we blame
God. Who really stops us from being free? We stop ou rselves. What
does it really mean to be free? Sometimes we get marrie d and we say
that we lose our freedom, then we get divorced and we are still not
free. What stops us? Why can't we be ourselves? W
Te have memories of long ago, when we used to be free and we
loved being free, but we have forgotten what freedo m really means.
If we see a child who is two or three, perhaps four years old, we find a
free human. Why is this human free? Because this human does
whatever he or she wants to do. The human is complete ly wild. Just
like a flower, a tree, or an animal that has not bee n domesticated —
wild! And if we observe humans who are two years old , we find that
most of the time these humans have a big smile on their face and
they're having fun. They are exploring the world. T hey are not afraid to
play. They are afraid when they are hurt, when they are hungry, when
some of their needs are not met, but they don't worry about the past,
don't care about the future, and only live in the p resent moment.
Very young children are not afraid to express what they feel. They are
so loving that if they perceive love, they melt into love. They are not
afraid to love at all. That is the description of a normal human being.
As children we are not afraid of the future or asha med of the past. Our
normal human tendency is to enjoy life, to play, to e xplore, to be
happy, and to love. But, what has happened with the adult human? Why are we so
different? Why are we not wild? From the point of vi ew of the Victim
we can say that something sad happened to us, and fr om the point of
view of the warrior we can say that what happened t o us is normal.
What has happened is that we have the Book of Law, the big Judge
and the Victim who rule our lives. We are no longer free because the
Judge, the Victim, and the belief system don't allow us to be who we
really are. Once our minds have been programmed with all that
garbage, we are no longer happy. This chain of training from human to human, from genera tion to
generation, is perfectly normal in human society. You don't need to
blame your parents for teaching you to be like them. What else could
they teach you but what they know? They did the bes t they could,
and if they abused you, it was due to their own dome stication, their
own fears, their own beliefs. They had no control o ver the
programming they received, so they couldn't have beha ved any
differently. There is no need to blame your parents or anyone who abused you in
your life, including yourself. But it is time to sto p the abuse. It is time to
free yourself of the tyranny of the Judge by changi ng the foundation
of your own agreements. It is time to be free from the role of the
Victim. The real you is still a little child who never grew up. Sometimes that little
child comes out when you are having fun or playing, when you feel
happy, when you are painting, or writing poetry, or playing the piano,
or expressing yourself in some way. These are the ha ppiest moments of
your life — when the real you comes out, when you do n't care about
the past and you don't worry about the future. You are childlike.
But there is something that changes all that: We cal l them
responsibilities. The Judge says, "Wait a second, you are responsible ,
you have things to do, you have to work, you have t o go to school,
you have to earn a living." All these responsibilit ies come to mind. Our
face changes and becomes serious again. If you watch children
when they are playing adults, you will see their li ttle faces change.
"Let's pretend I'm a lawyer," and right away their f aces change; the
adult face takes over. We go to court and that is t he face we see —
and that is what we are. We are still children, but we have lost our
freedom.

The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be o urselves, to
express ourselves. But if we look at our lives we w ill see that most of the
time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others,
rather than living our lives to please ourselves. T hat is what has
happened to our freedom. And we see in our society a nd all the
societies around the world, that for every thousand people, nine
hundred and ninety-nine are completely domesticated.
The worst part is that most of us are not even aware that we are not
free. There is something inside that whispers to us that we are not free,
but we do not understand what it is, and why we are not free.
The problem with most people is that they live their lives and never
discover that the Judge and the Victim rule their min d, and therefore
they don't have a chance to be free. The first step toward personal
freedom is awareness. We need to be aware that we ar e not free in
order to be free. We need to be aware of what the p roblem is in order
to solve the problem. Awareness is always the first step because if you a re not aware, there
is nothing you can change. If you are not aware tha t your mind is full
of wounds and emotional poison, you cannot begin to clean and
heal the wounds and you will continue to suffer. There is no reason to suffer. With awareness you ca n rebel and say,
"This is enough!" You can look for a way to heal an d transform your
personal dream. The dream of the planet is just a dr eam. It is not even
real. If you go into the dream and start challenging your beliefs, you
will find that most of the beliefs that guided you i nto the wounded
mind are not even true. You will find that you suffe red all those years
of drama for nothing. Why? Because the belief system that was put
inside your mind is based on lies. That is why it is important for you to master your ow n dream; that is
why the Toltecs became dream masters. Your life is the manifestation
of your dream; it is an art. And you can change you r life anytime if you
aren't enjoying the dream. Dream masters create a mast erpiece of
life; they control the dream by making choices. Every thing has
consequences and a dream master is aware of the conse quences.
To be Toltec is a way of life. It is a way of life where there are no
leaders and no followers, where you have your own t ruth and live your own truth. A Toltec becomes wise, becomes wild, and b ecomes free
again. There are three masteries that lead people to become Toltecs. First is
the Mastery of Awareness. This is to be aware of wh o we really are,
with all the possibilities. The second is the Maste ry of Transformation —
how to change, how to be free of domestication. The third is the
Mastery of Intent. Intent from the Toltec point of v iew is that part of life
that makes transformation of energy possible; it is t he one living being
that seemlessly encompasses all energy, or what we ca ll "God." Intent
is life itself; it is unconditional love. The Maste ry of Intent is therefore the
Masterv of Love. When we talk about the Toltec path to freedom, we f ind that they
have an entire map for breaking free of domestication . They compare
the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system to a par asite that invades
the human mind. From the Toltec point of view, all huma ns who are
domesticated are sick. They are sick because there i s a parasite that
controls the mind and controls the brain. The food f or the parasite are
the negative emotions that come from fear. If we look at the description of a parasite, we fin d that a parasite is a
living being who lives off of other living beings, sucking their energy
without any useful contribution in return, and hurt ing their host little by
little. The Judge, the Victim, and the belief system fit this description
very well. Together they comprise a living being made of psychic or
emotional energy, and that energy is alive. Of cours e it is not material
energy, but neither are emotions material energy. Our dreams are not
material energy either, but we know they exist. One function of the brain is to transform material en ergy into
emotional energy. Our brain is the factory of the emo tions. And we
have said that the main function of the mind is to dr eam. The Toltecs
believe that the parasite — the Judge, the Victim, a nd the belief
system — has control of your mind; it controls your p ersonal dream.
The parasite dreams through your mind and lives its l ife through your
body. It survives on the emotions that come from fear, and thrives on
drama and suffering. The freedom we seek is to use our own mind and body, to live our own
life, instead of the life of the belief system. Whe n we discover that the
mind is controlled by the Judge and the Victim and th e real "us" is in
the corner, we have just two choices. One choice is to keep living the

way we are, to surrender to the Judge and the Victi m, to keep living in
the dream of the planet. The second choice is to do what we do as
children when parents try to domesticate us. We can rebel and say
"No!" We can declare a war against the parasite, a war against the
Judge and the Victim, a war for our independence, a war for the right
to use our own mind and our own brain. That is why in all the shamanic traditions in America , from Canada to
Argentina, people call themselves warriors, because they are in a war
against the parasite in the mind. That is the real m eaning of a warrior.
The warrior is one who rebels against the invasion of the parasite. The
warrior rebels and declares a war. But to be a warr ior doesn't mean
we always win the war; we may win or we may lose, but we always do
our best and at least we have a chance to be free a gain. Choosing
this path gives us, at the very least, the dignity of rebellion, and ensures
that we will not be the helpless victim of our own w himsical emotions
or the poisonous emotions of others. Even if we succ umb to the enemy
— the parasite — we will not be among those victims w ho would not
fight back. At best, being a warrior gives us an opportunity to transcend the
dream of the planet, and to change our personal drea m to a dream
that we call heaven. Just like hell, heaven is a place that exists withi n
our mind. It is a place of joy, a place where we are happy, where we
are free to love and to be who we really are. We ca n reach heaven
while we are alive; we don't have to wait until we die. God is always
present and the kingdom of heaven is everywhere, but first we need
to have the eyes and ears to see and hear that trut h. We need to be
free of the parasite. The parasite can be compared to a monster with a thou sand heads.
Every head of the parasite is one of the fears that we have. If we want
to be free, we have to destroy the parasite. One so lution is to attack
the parasite head by head, which means we face each of our fears,
one by one. This is a slow process, but it works. E very time we face one
of the fears we are a little more free. A second approach is to stop feeding the parasite. If we don't give
the parasite any food, we kill the parasite by star vation. To do this we
have to gain control of our emotions, we have to re frain from fueling
the emotions that come from fear. This is easy to say, but it is very
difficult to do. It is difficult because the Judge and the Victim control
our mind. A third solution is called the initiation of the dead. The initiation of the
dead is found in many traditions and esoteric school s around the
world. We find it in Egypt, India, Greece, and Amer ica. This is a
symbolic death which kills the parasite without harmi ng our physical
body. When we "die" symbolically the parasite has t o die. This is faster
than the first two solutions, but it is even more di fficult to do. We need
a great deal of courage to face the angel of death. We need to be
very strong. Let's take a closer look at each of these solutions .
THE ART OF TRANSFORMATION: THE DREAM OF THE SECOND ATTENTION
We have learned that the dream you are living now is the result of the
outside dream hooking your attention and feeding you all of your
beliefs. The process of domestication can be called the dream of the
first attention because it was how your attention was used for the first
time to create the first dream of your life. One way to change your beliefs is to focus your att ention on all those
agreements and beliefs, and change the agreements wit h yourself. In
doing this you are using your attention for the sec ond time, thus
creating the dream of the second attention or the new dream.
The difference is that you are no longer innocent. When you were a
child this was not true; you didn't have a choice. But you are no longer
a child. Now it's up to you to choose what to belie ve and what not to
believe. You can choose to believe in anything, and that includes
believing in yourself. The first step is to become aware of the fog that is in your mind. You
must become aware that you are dreaming all the time. O nly with
awareness do you have the possibility of transformin g your dream. If
you have the awareness that the whole drama of your life is the result
of what you believe, and what you believe is not re al, then you can
begin to change it. However, to really change your beliefs you need
to focus your attention on what it is that you want to change. You
have to know which agreements you want to change bef ore you can
change them.

So the next step is to develop awareness of all the self-limiting, fear-
based beliefs that make you unhappy. You take an inv entory of all
that you believe, all your agreements, and through t his process you
begin the transformation. The Toltecs called this th e Art of
Transformation, and it's a whole mastery. You achieve the Mastery of
Transformation by changing the fear-based agreements that make
you suffer and reprogramming your own mind, in your ow n way. One
of the ways to do this is to explore and adopt alte rnative beliefs such
as the Four Agreements. The decision to adopt the Four Agreements is a decla ration of war to
regain your freedom from the parasite. The Four Agree ments offer the
possibility of ending the emotional pain, which can open the door for
you to enjoy your life and begin a new dream. It's u p to you to explore
the possibilities of your dream, if you are interest ed. The Four
Agreements were created to assist you in the Art of Transformation, to
help you break the limiting agreements, gam more person al power,
and become stronger. The stronger you get, the more agreements
you can break until the moment comes when you make it to the core
of all of those agreements. Going to the core of those agreements is what I call going into the
desert. When you go into the desert you meet your demons face -to-
face. After coming out of the desert, all those demon s become
angels. Practicing the four new agreements is a big act of p ower. Breaking
the spell of black magic in your mind requires great personal power.
Every time you break an agreement, you gain extra pow er. You start
by breaking agreements that are very small and requir e less power. As
those smaller agreements are broken, your personal po wer will
increase until you reach a point when you can final ly face the big
demons in your mind. For example, the little girl who was told not to sin g is now twenty years
old and she still does not sing. One way she can ov ercome the belief
that her voice is ugly is to say, "Okay, I will try to sing, even if I do sing
badly." Then she can pretend that someone is clappin g and telling
her, "Oh! That was beautiful." This may break the ag reement a teeny,
tiny bit, but it will still be there. However, now she has a little more
power and courage to try again and again until fina lly she breaks the
agreement. That's one way out of the dream of hell. But for eve ry agreement you
break that makes you suffer, you will need to replac e it with a new
agreement that makes you happy. This will keep the ol d agreement
from coming back. If you occupy the same space with a new
agreement, then the old agreement is gone forever and in its place is
the new agreement. There are many strong beliefs in the mind that can mak e this process
look hopeless. This is why you need to go step-by-s tep and be patient
with yourself because this is a slow process. The w ay you are living now
is the result of many years of domestication. You ca nnot expect to
break the domestication in one day. Breaking agreemen ts is very
difficult because we put the power of the word (which is the power of
our will) into every agreement we have made. We need the same amount of power to change an agreemen t. We
cannot change an agreement with less power than we u sed to make
the agreement, and almost all our personal power is i nvested in
keeping the agreements we have with ourselves. That' s because our
agreements are actually like a strong addiction. We are addicted to
being the way we are. We are addicted to anger, jea lousy, and self-
pity. We are addicted to the beliefs that tell us, "I'm not good enough,
I'm not intelligent enough. Why even try? Other peop le will do it
because they're better than me." All of these old agreements which rule our dream of l ife are the result
of repeating them over and over again. Therefore, to adopt the Four
Agreements, you need to put repetition in action. Pr acticing the new
agreements in your life is how your best becomes bett er. Repetition
makes the master. THE DISCIPLINE OF THE WARRIOR: CONTROLLING YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR
Imagine that you awake early one morning overflowing with
enthusiasm for the day. You feel good. You are happy and have
plenty of energy to face the day. Then at breakfast , you have a big
fight with your spouse, and a flood of emotion comes out. You get
mad, and in the emotion of anger you spend a lot of p ersonal power.
After the fight, you feel drained, and you just wan t to go and cry. In
fact, you feel so tired that you go to your room, c ollapse, and try to
recover. You spend the day wrapped up in your emotio ns. You have

no energy to keep going, and you just want to walk away from
everything. Every day we awake with a certain amount of mental, e motional, and
physical energy that we spend throughout the day. I f we allow our
emotions to deplete our energy, we have no energy to change our
life or to give to others. The way you see the world will depend upon the emoti ons you are
feeling. When you are angry, everything around you is wrong, nothing
is right. You blame everything including the weather ; whether it's
raining or the sun is shining, nothing pleases you. When you are sad,
everything around you is sad and makes you cry. You see the trees
and you feel sad; you see the ram and everything loo ks so sad.
Perhaps you feel vulnerable and have a need to prot ect yourself
because you don't know in what moment someone will att ack you.
You do not trust anything or anyone around you. Thi s is because you
see the world with the eyes of fear! Imagine that the human mind is the same as your skin. Y ou can touch
healthy skin and it feels wonderful. Your skin is ma de for perception
and the sensation of touch is wonderful. Now imagine you have an
injury and the skin gets cut and infected. If you t ouch the infected skin,
it is going to hurt, so you try to cover and protec t the skin. You will not
enjoy being touched because it hurts. Now imagine that all humans have this skin disease. N obody can
touch each other because it is going to hurt. Every one has wounds on
their skin, so the infection is seen as normal, the pain is also considered
normal; we believe we are supposed to be that way. Can you imagine how we would behave with each other if all the
humans in the world had this skin disease? Of course we would hardly
ever hug each other because it would be too painful . So we would
need to create a lot of distance between us. The human mind is exactly like this description of in fected skin. Every
human has an emotional body completely covered with in fected
wounds. Each wound is infected with emotional poison — the poison
of all the emotions that makes us suffer, such as hat e, anger, envy,
and sadness. An action of injustice opens a wound i n the mind and
we react with emotional poison because of the concep ts and beliefs
we have about injustice and what is fair. The mind i s so wounded and full of poison by the process of domestication, that everyone describes
the wounded mind as normal. This is considered normal, but I can tell
you it is not normal. We have a dysfunctional dream of the planet, and huma ns are
mentally sick with a disease called fear. The symptoms of the disease
are all the emotions that make humans suffer: anger, h ate, sadness,
envy, and betrayal. When the fear is too great, the reasoning mind
begins to fail, and we call this mental illness. Psy chotic behavior occurs
when the mind is so frightened and the wounds so pai nful, that it
seems better to break contact with the outside world .
If we can see our state of mind as a disease, we fin d there is a cure.
We don't have to suffer any longer. First we need t he truth to open the
emotional wounds, take the poison out, and heal the wounds
completely. How do we do this? We must forgive those we feel have
wronged us, not because they deserve to be forgiven , but because
we love our-self so much we don't want to keep payin g for the
injustice. Forgiveness is the only way to heal. We can choose to forgive
because we feel compassion for ourselves. We can let go of the
resentment and declare, "That's enough! I will no lo nger be the big
Judge that goes against myself. I will no longer bea t myself up and
abuse myself. I will no longer be the Victim." First , we need to forgive
our parents, our brothers, our sisters, our friends , and God. Once you
forgive God, you can finally forgive yourself. Once you forgive
yourself, the self-rejection in your mind is over. S elf-acceptance
begins, and the self-love will grow so strong that you will finally accept
yourself just the way you are. That's the beginning of the free human.
Forgiveness is the key. You will know you have forgiven someone when you see them and
you no longer have an emotional reaction. You will h ear the name of
the person and you will have no emotional reaction. When someone
can touch what used to be a wound and it no longer hurts you, then
you know you have truly forgiven. The truth is like a scalpel. The truth is painful, because it opens all of the
wounds which are covered by lies so that we can be healed. These
lies are what we call the denial system. It's a good thing we have the
denial system, because it allows us to cover our wou nds and still
function. But once we no longer have any wounds or any poison, we

don't need to lie anymore. We don't need the denial system, because
a healthy mind, like healthy skin, can be touched wi thout hurting. It's
pleasurable for the mind to be touched when it is cl ean.
The problem with most people is that they lose contro l of their
emotions. It is the emotions that control the behavio r of the human,
not the human who controls the emotions. When we lose control we
say things that we don't want to say, and do things that we don't want
to do. That is why it is so important to be impeccabl e with our word
and to become a spiritual warrior. We must learn to control the
emotions so we have enough personal power to change our fear-
based agreements, escape from hell, and create our ow n personal
heaven. How are we to become a warrior? There are certain ch aracteristics of
the warrior that are nearly the same around the worl d. The warrior has
awareness. That's very important. We are aware that we are at war,
and the war in our minds requires discipline. Not th e discipline of a
soldier, but the discipline of a warrior. Not the d iscipline from the
outside to tell us what to do and what not to do, b ut the discipline to
be ourselves, no matter what. The warrior has control. Not control over another h uman, but control
over one's own emotions, control over one's own self . It is when we
lose control that we repress the emotions, not when we are in control.
The big difference between a warrior and a victim is that the victim
represses, and the warrior refrains. Victims repress because they are
afraid to show the emotions, afraid to say what they want to say. To
refrain is not the same thing as repression. To refr ain is to hold the
emotions and to express them in the right moment, not b efore, not
later. That is why warriors are impeccable. They hav e complete
control over their own emotions and therefore over t heir own
behavior. THE INITIATION OF THE DEAD: EMBRACING THE ANGEL OF DEATH
The final way to attain personal freedom is to prepa re ourselves for the
initiation of the dead, to take death itself as our teacher. What the
angel of death can teach us is how to be truly aliv e. We become
aware that we can die at any moment; we have just the present to
be alive. The truth is that we don't know if we are going to die tomorrow. Who knows? We have the idea that we have ma ny years in
the future. But do we? If we go to the hospital and the doctor tells us th at we have one week
to live, what are we going to do? As we have said b efore, we have
two choices. One is to suffer because we are going to die, and to tell
everyone, "Poor me, I am going to die," and really c reate a huge
drama. The other choice is to use every moment to be h appy, to do
what we really enjoy doing. If we only have one wee k to live, let's
enjoy life. Let's be alive. W
re can say, "I'm going to be myself. No
longer am I going to run my life trying to please oth er people.
No longer am I going to be afraid of what they think about me. What
do I care what others think if I am going to die in one week? I'm going
to be myself." The angel of death can teach us to live every day a s if it is the last day
of our life, as if there may be no tomorrow. We can b egin each day
by saying, "I am awake, I see the sun. I am going to give my gratitude
to the sun and to everything and everyone, because I am still alive.
One more day to be myself." That is the way I see life, that is what the angel of death taught me —
to be completely open, to know that there is nothing to be afraid of.
And of course I treat the people I love with love b ecause this may be
the last day that I can tell you how much I love you . I don't know if I
am going to see you again, so I don't want to fight with you.
What if I had a big fight with you and I told you a ll those emotional
poisons that I have against you and you die tomorrow ? Oops! Oh my
God, the Judge will get me so bad, and I will feel s o guilty for
everything that I told you. I will even feel guilty for not telling you how
much I love you. The love that makes me happy is the l ove that I can
share with you. Why do I need to deny that I love y ou? It is not
important if you love me back. I may die tomorrow or y ou may die
tomorrow. What makes me happy now is to let you know h ow much I
love you. You can live your life this way. By doing so, you p repare yourself for the
initiation of death. What is going to happen in the initiation of death is
that the old dream that you have in your mind is goin g to die forever.
Yes, you are going to have memories of the parasite — of the Judge,

the Victim, and what you used to believe — but the p arasite will be
dead. That is what is going to die in the initiation of d eath — the parasite. It is
not easy to go for the initiation of death because the Judge and the
Victim will fight with everything they have. They do n't want to die. And
we feel we are the ones who are going to die, and w e are afraid of
this death. When we live in the dream of the planet, it is as if we are dead.
Whoever survives the initiation of the dead receive s the most
wonderful gift: the resurrection. To receive the re surrection is to arise
from the dead, to be alive, to be ourselves again. T he resurrection is to
be like a child — to be wild and free, but with a d ifference. The
difference is that we have freedom with wisdom instea d of
innocence. We are able to break our domestication, b ecome free
again, and heal our mind. We surrender to the angel of death,
knowing that the parasite will die and we will stil l be alive with a
healthy mind and perfect reason. Then we are free to use our own
mind and run our own life. That is what, in the Toltec way, the angel of death teaches us. The
angel of death comes to us and says, "You see everyt hing that exists
here is mine; it is not yours. Your house, your spou se, your children, your
car, your career, your money — everything is mine an d I can take it
away when I want to, but for now you can use it." If we surrender to the angel of death we will be ha ppy forever and
ever. Why? Because the angel of death takes the pas t away in order
to make it possible for life to continue. For every moment that is past,
the angel of death keeps taking the part that is de ad and we keep
living in the present. The parasite wants us to car ry the past with us and
that makes it so heavy to be alive. When we try to l ive in the past, how
can we enjoy the present? When we dream of the futur e, why must
we carry the burden of the past? When are we going to live in the
present? That is what the angel of death teaches us to do.

7 THE NEW DREAM
Heaven on Earth
I WANT YOU TO FORGET EVERYTHING YOU HAVE learned in your whole
life. This is the beginning of a new understanding, a new dream.
The dream you are living is your creation. It is you r perception of reality
that you can change at any time. You have the power to create hell,
and you have the power to create heaven. Why not dr eam a
different dream? Why not use your mind, your imaginati on, and your
emotions to dream heaven? Just use your imagination and a tremendous thing will happen.
Imagine that you have the ability to see the world w ith different eyes,
whenever you choose. Each time you open your eyes, y ou see the
world around you in a different way. Close your eyes now, and then open them and look out side.
What you will see is love coming out of the trees, l ove coming out of
the sky, love coming out of the light. You will perc eive love from
everything around you. This is the state of bliss. You perceive love
directly from everything, including yourself and oth er humans. Even
when humans are sad or angry, behind these feelings you can see
that they are also sending love. Using your imagination and your new eyes of percepti on, I want you
to see yourself living a new life, a new dream, a li fe where you don't
need to justify your existence and you are free to be who you really
are. Imagine that you have permission to be happy and to r eally enjoy
your life. Your life is free of conflict with yours elf and with others.
Imagine living your life without fear of expressing your dreams. You
know what you want, what you don't want, and when y ou want it.
You are free to change your life the way you really want to. You are
not afraid to ask for what you need, to say yes or no to anything or
anyone. Imagine living your life without the fear of being j udged by others. You
no longer rule your behavior according to what othe rs may think
about you. You are no longer responsible for anyone 's opinion. You
have no need to control anyone, and no one controls you, either.
Imagine living your life without judging others. You can easily forgive
others and let go of any judgments that you have. Yo u don't have the
need to be right, and you don't need to make anyone else wrong.
You respect yourself and everyone else, and they re spect you in
return. Imagine living without the fear of loving and not be ing loved. You are
no longer afraid to be rejected, and you don't have the need to be
accepted. You can say "I love you" with no shame or justification. You
can walk in the world with your heart completely ope n, and not be
afraid to be hurt. Imagine living your life without being afraid to tak e a risk and to
explore life. You are not afraid to lose anything. You are not afraid to
be alive in the world, and you are not afraid to di e.
Imagine that you love yourself just the way you are. You love your
body just the way it is, and you love your emotions just the way they
are. You know that you are perfect just as you are.
The reason I ask you to imagine these things is beca use they are all
entirely possible.' You can live in the state of gr ace, the state of bliss,
the dream of heaven. But in order to experience this dream, you must
first understand what it is. Only love has the ability to put you in that state of bliss. Being in bliss is
like being in love. Being in love is like being in bliss. You are floating in
the clouds. You are perceiving love wherever you go . It is entirely
possible to live this way all the time. It is possib le because others have
done it and they are no different from you. They liv e in bliss because
they have changed their agreements and are dreaming a different
dream. Once you feel what it means to live in a state of b liss, you will love it.
You will know that heaven on earth is truth — that heaven truly exists.
Once you know that heaven exists, once you know it is possible to stay
there, it's up to you to make the effort to do it. Two thousand years
ago, Jesus told us about the kingdom of heaven, the kingdom of love,

but hardly anyone was ready to hear this. They said , "What are you
talking about? My heart is empty, I don't feel the l ove that you are
talking about; I don't feel the peace that you have ." You don't have to
do this. Just imagine that his message of love is pos sible and you will
find that it is yours. The world is very beautiful and very wonderful. Lif e can be very easy
when love is your way of life. You can be loving all the time. This is your choice. You may not have a
reason to love, but you can love because to love mak es you so
happy. Love in action only produces happiness. Love will give you
inner peace. It will change your perception of ever ything.
You can see everything with the eyes of love. You c an be aware that
there is love all around you. When you live this wa y, there is no longer
a fog in your mind. The mitote has gone on a permanent vacation.
This is what humans have been seeking for centuries. For thousands of
years we have been searching for happiness. Happine ss is the lost
paradise. Humans have worked so hard to reach this p oint, and this is
part of the evolution of the mind. This is the futur e of humanity.
This way of life is possible, and it's in your hand s. Moses called it the
Promised Land, Buddha called it Nirvana, Jesus calle d it Heaven, and
the Toltecs call it a New Dream. Unfortunately, your identity is mixed
with the dream of the planet. All of your beliefs an d agreements are
there in the fog. You feel the presence of the parasite and believe i t is you. This makes
it difficult to let go — to release the parasite an d create the space to
experience love. You are attached to the Judge, att ached to the
Victim. Suffering makes you feel safe because you kno w it so well.
But there is really no reason to suffer. The only r eason you suffer is
because you choose to suffer. If you look at your l ife you will find many
excuses to suffer, but a good reason to suffer you will not find. The
same is true for happiness. The only reason you are happy is because
you choose to be happy. Happiness is a choice, and so is suffering.
Maybe we cannot escape from the destiny of the human, but we
have a choice: to suffer our destiny or to enjoy ou r destiny. To suffer, or
to love and be happy. To live in hell, or to live i n heaven. My choice is
to live in heaven. What is yours?
Prayers
PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT TO CLOSE YOUR EYES, OPEN your heart, and
feel all the love that comes from your heart. I want you to join with my words in your mind and in your heart, to feel
a very strong connection of love. Together, we are going to do a very
special prayer to experience a communion with our Cre ator.
Focus your attention on your lungs, as if only your lungs exist. Feel the
pleasure when your lungs expand to fulfill the bigg est need of the
human body — to breathe. Take a deep breath and feel the air as it fills you r lungs. Feel how the
air is nothing but love. Notice the connection betw een the air and the
lungs, a connection of love. Expand your lungs with air until your body
has the need to expel that air. And then exhale, an d feel the pleasure
again. Because when we fulfill any need of the human body, it gives
us pleasure. To breathe gives us much pleasure. Just to breathe is
enough for us to always be happy, to enjoy life. Ju st to be alive is
enough. Feel the pleasure to be alive, the pleasure of the feeling of
love…. Today, Creator of the Universe, we ask that you come to us and share
with us a strong communion of love. We know that you r real name is
Love, that to have a communion with you means to share the same
vibration, the same frequency that you are, because you are the only
thing that exists m the universe. Today, help us to be like you are, to love life, to be life, to be love.
Help us to love the way you love, with no condition s, no expectations,
no obligations, without any judgment. Help us to lov e and accept
ourselves without any judgment, because when we judg e ourselves,
we find ourselves guilty and we need to be punished .
Help us to love everything you create unconditional ly, especially other
human beings, especially those who live around us — all our relatives
and people whom we try so hard to love. Because when we reject

them, we reject ourselves, and when we reject oursel ves, we reject
You. Help us to love others just the way they are with n o conditions. Help us
to accept them the way they are, without judgment, be cause if we
judge them, we find them guilty, we blame them, and we have the
need to punish them. Today, clean our hearts of any emotional poison that we have, free
our minds from any judgment so that we can live in comp lete peace
and complete love. Today is a very special day. Today we open our hear ts to love again
so that we can tell each other "I love you," withou t any fear, and really
mean it. Today, we offer ourselves to you. Come to us , use our voices,
use our eyes, use our hands, and use our hearts to share ourselves in a
communion of love with everyone. Today, Creator, help us to be just
like you are. Thank you for everything that we rece ive this day,
especially for the freedom to be who we really are. Amen.
PRAYER FOR LOVE We are going to share a beautiful dream together — a dream that
you will love to have all of the time. In this dream you are in the middle
of a beautiful, warm sunny day. You hear the birds, the wind, and a
little river. You walk toward the river. At the edg e of the river is an old
man in meditation, and you see that out of his head c omes a
beautiful light of different colors. You try not to bother him, but he
notices your presence and opens his eyes. He has th e kind of eyes
that are full of love and a big smile. You ask him ho w he is able to
radiate all that beautiful light. You ask him if he can teach you to do
what he is doing. He replies that many, many, years a go he asked the
same question of his teacher. The old man begins to tell you his story: "My teache r opened his chest
and took out his heart, and he took a beautiful fla me from his heart.
Then he opened my chest, opened my heart, and he put that little
flame inside it. He put my heart back in my chest, and as soon as my
heart was inside me, I felt intense love, because th e flame he put in
my heart was his own love. "That flame grew in my heart and became a big, big fir e — a fire that
doesn't burn, but purifies everything that it touch es. And that fire touched each one of the cells of my body, and the c ells of my body
loved me back. I became one with my body, but my love g rew even
more. That fire touched every emotion of my mind, and a ll the
emotions transformed into a strong and intense love. And I loved
myself, completely and unconditionally. "But the fire kept burning and I had the need to sh are my love. I
decided to put a little piece of my love in every t ree, and the trees
loved me back, and I became one with the trees, but my love did not
stop, it grew more. I put a piece of love in every f lower, in the grass, in
the earth and they loved me back, and we became one. And my
love grew more and more to love every animal in the w orld. They
responded to my love and they loved me back, and we became
one. But my love kept growing and growing. "I put a piece of my love in every crystal, in every stone in the ground,
in the dirt, in the metals, and they loved me back, a nd I became one
with the earth. And then I decided to put my love in the water, in the
oceans, in the rivers, in the rain, in the snow. An d they loved me back
and we became one. And still my love grew more and more . I
decided to give my love to the air, to the wind. I f elt a strong
communion with the earth, with the wind, with the oce ans, with
nature, and my love grew and grew. "I turned my head to the sky, to the sun, to the sta rs, and put a little
piece of my love in every star, in the moon, in the sun, and they loved
me back. And I became one with the moon and the sun an d the
stars, and my love kept growing and growing. And I put a little piece
of my love in every human, and I became one with the whole of
humanity. Wherever I go, whomever I meet, I see myself in their eyes,
because I am a part of everything, because I love." And then the old man opens his own chest, takes out his heart with
that beautiful flame inside, and he puts that flame in your heart. And
now that love is growing inside of you. Now you are one with the wind,
with the water, with the stars, with all of nature, with all animals, and
with all humans. You feel the heat and the light eman ating from the
flame in your heart. Out of your head shines a beaut iful light of
different colors. You are radiant with the glow of love and vou pray:
Thank you, Creator of the Universe, for the gift of life you have given
me. Thank you for giving me everything that I have ev er truly needed.
Thank you for the opportunity to experience this be autiful body and

this wonderful mind. Thank you for living inside me w ith all your love,
with your pure and boundless spirit, with your warm and radiant light.
Thank you for using my words, for using my eyes, for using my heart to
share your love wherever I go. I love you just the way you are, and
because I am your creation, I love myself just the wa y I am. Help me to
keep the love and the peace in my heart and to make t hat love a
new way of life, that I may live in love the rest of my life. Amen.

DON MIGUEL Ruiz is A MASTER OF THE TOLTEC mystery s chool tradition.
For more than a decade, he has worked to impart the wisdom of the
ancient Toltec to his students and apprentices, gui ding them toward
their personal freedom. Today, he continues to offe r his unique blend
of ancient wisdom and modern-day awareness through le ctures,
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